Be Who You Are and Stand Above the Crowd

Robert C. Jameson

When I was young, I practiced being invisible. I didn’t want to be noticed. I could walk into a room, hang out for a while and then leave and no one knew I was there. I was good at hiding.

Being raised in a dysfunctional family, I was safest being invisible. If I weren’t seen, then I wouldn’t get blamed for something I didn’t do. If I didn’t take up any space, then I wasn’t a burden on the family. If I did something good, then I was told I was just trying to get attention or that I was competing with my siblings, and I “shouldn’t” do that because it made them feel less than. I wasn’t supposed to do “bad” things or “good” things. I was just supposed to be compliant, malleable and invisible.

Using today’s terminology, I became “codependent.” I was happy if you were happy. What ever you wanted me to be, I could be. And, I certainly didn’t want anyone to be uncomfortable with anything I said or did. Ugh! What a painful place that was for me.picture 5

At some point, I looked around my world, and I saw that many people admired the personalities I admired. It didn’t matter what arena I looked at: politicians, artists, authors, speakers or what ever. I also observed that many people hated the personalities that I admired. Wow! What a strange thing I thought. What also struck me was that these personalities didn’t seem to care that some people didn’t like what they were saying or doing. They just keep doing the best work they could do.

This was a transformational moment for me. Up to that point, my objective was not to be seen, not to make waves, not to make people uncomfortable, not to receive any positive or negative attention. In order to accomplish this, I often diminished myself or didn’t share my ideas because I didn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable on any level.

I realized that if I was to be me, if I was to do the best I could, if I wanted to share my ideas with others, then two things would happen: some people would like and respect me, and some people would hate me and attack me for what I was saying or doing.

Dare I do the best I can? Dare I stand above the crowd? Dare I attempt to make a difference?

picture 2A voice deep in my belly said, “Yes!”

A new awareness became apparent to me. If I’m not regularly receiving some negative attack, then I’m not doing my job. If I’m not doing my best, if I’m not speaking my truth, then I’m hiding again. I’m playing it safe. My codependency tendencies are running me. It’s not that I have to seek negativity, nor do I need to speak harshly to be on course. In fact that would be off course. My job is to shine, to do the best I can, to speak with loving and uplifting words, to share my joy, and to reach out and touch others so they too can shine.

My challenge to you is: Shine, do your best, stand above the crowd, and yes, be willing to receive negativity for your good works. By doing your best you’ll also receive positive attention. Just keep going, take that next step. Joy is present.picture 7


About the Author of This Article:  As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Robert C. Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few. During his years of private practice, Mr. Jameson found it useful to give many of his clients “homework” in the form of handouts to support their work while in session. The Keys to Joy-Filled Living was born from his handout of tried and true exercises and techniques. Mr. Jameson is also the author of Thoughts of Pomery, an entertaining book of pictures and thoughts that guides the reader to expand their perceptions of life and relationships with others, Don’t Lose Weight – Give It Away, which explores the emotional aspects of weight loss, and The Pocket Oasis, a fun and useful pocket-sized book that can be used as a tool to help center anyone during a hectic day.In addition to his work as a therapist and writer, Mr. Jameson is an accomplished musician. He produced and released,”Ani Hu – Empathy with God, an hour-long CD, which helps the listener to meditate, relax, or sleep.  Recently, he released “Healing Affirmations & Positive Self-Talk“, an hour-long CD, which encourages the listener to create positive thoughts and feelings. He is frequently featured on The Huffington Post.


picture 9About the Owner of this Magazine: Dame Adrienne Papp is a recognized journalist, economist and feature writer who has written for many publications including Savoir, Beverly Hills 90210Malibu BeachSanta Monica SunThe Beverly Hills TimesBrentwood News, Bel-Air View,Celebrity Society,Celeb Staff, It MagazineChic TodayLA2DAYWest Side Todayamong many others. She is the President and CEO of Los Angeles / New York-based publicity company, Atlantic Publicity and publishing house, Atlantic Publisher. Adrienne writes about world trends, Quantum Physics, entertainment and interviews celebrities, world leaders, inventors, philanthropists and entrepreneurs. She also owns Atlantic United Films that produces and finances true stories made for theatrical release or the silver screen. Spotlight News Magazine is owned by Atlantic United, Inc. Dame Adrienne Papp is a member of the International Press Academy.

Adrienne Papp

Adrienne Papp

Adrienne Papp is a recognized journalist, economist and feature writer, who has written for many publications including Savoir; The Westside Today Publications ; such as Beverly Hills 90210; Malibu Beach; Santa Monica Sun; The Beverly Hills Times; Brentwood News; Bel-Air View ; Celebrity Society ; Celeb Staff ; It Magazine; Chic Today; LA2DAY; West Side Today among many others. She is the President and CEO of Los Angeles / New York-based publicity company, Atlantic Publicity and publishing house, Atlantic Publisher. Adrienne writes about world trends, Quantum Physics, entertainment and interviews celebrities, world leaders, inventors, philanthropists and entrepreneurs. She also owns Atlantic United Films that produces and finances true stories made for theatrical release or the silver screen. Spotlight News Magazine is owned by Atlantic Publicity that just opened a new extension to it : PublicityLosAngeles. Adrienne Papp is a member of the International Press Academy.She is the Founder, CEO and President of Youthful & Ageless ™, Bringing Information to Billions™, An Honorable Cause™, Atlantic Publicity Articles, Latest Ageless, Events Photo Collection, Linked In Profile, Movie Data Base Profile, Twitter, Instagram, Youthful and Ageless Google+, Atlantic Publicity Google+, Atlantic Publisher Google+, Adrienne Papp Google+, Adrienne Papp Personal Google+, Spotlight News Magazine, Atlantic Publicity Productions, Atlantic Altitude, Altitude Pacific, Atlantic Publicity Photography and Filming, About Adrienne Papp What Others Say AtlanticPublicitySEO, BrilliantMarketing365, An Honorable Cause, Academic Research, Knighthood Today, Youthful and Ageless™. She was knighted and became a Dame in 2010. Her official name is Lady Adrienne Papp and Dame Adrienne Papp. Voting Member of The International Press Academy and The Oscars: Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences. She is the Managing Editorial Director of The Beverly Hills Times Magazine, and Hollywood Weekly. She has a Master of Science in Economics majoring Logistics; an MBA Degree; An International Law, Trade and Finance Postgraduate: Marketing and Advertising Postgraduate from NYU and UCLA. Guest Professor at Oxford University; Director and Producer of TV and Airline On Camera Editorials; Adrienne Papp Enterprises

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